Failure the very word invokes negativity when expressed , “oh Jane is a failure, john’s just failed to gain that job” you get the idea.
What most people see is success, the end result the world class athlete, the Michelin star chef, the billionaire business man, the football player that broke the latest transfer figure, the actor that’s a box office hit.
What ever the arena or interest we are aware of the success the end result, the perfection. Its like the façade of a lavish building we don’t see behind the back where all the actions taking place the things people don’t want us to see. There is a problem with this in people especially those that may currently feel like a failure or struggling with some kind of adversity, feel even more of a failure which can be very damaging.
Failure is so important as the saying goes
“Learn from your mistakes”
What most people are not aware of lets take the successful biz person. Unless they were handed a few million pounds from a relative the successful businessperson has failed prob more times than they were successful. The fundamental difference is they take that failure and use the learning to prevent the same thing happening and do what ever they were trying faster and more effective.
Its like learning to ride a bike no one just jumps on a bike for the first time and peddles away do they!. Either they have stablizers or a balance bike to practice on. When the day comes to take the stabilizers off, guess what they prob fall off. Now we could simply say “oh that’s it ill never ride that bike and give up” or we can get back on a practice some more adjust how we sit, how we control the bike and balance better. Eventually were off riding confidently and safely. Just imagine that Olympic athlete winning a cycling gold “they have fallen off too”…
Failure and also adversity do something that will be life changing, either positive or negative. When a human feels they cannot get any lower or have lost everything they either give up or it can be like hitting a reset button. The only way is up everything they once thought was important say not losing that job or becoming homeless and penniless. It strips away the façade it reveals what truly important and to all those successful people that have experienced true adversity true failure it’s the fundamental building block to their success.
I only have to look at my own story to see some failure points times of adversity where I’ve come back stronger more determined and with the guts if you like to be the best I can be.
Over the last few years I’ve met some pretty amazing people, then heard some of their stories. What I’ve come to realise is people I admire , are great people fantastic business people , have had a pretty hard time at least once in the past.
So if you are currently feeling that you are in the worst place you’ve ever been then know this what happens next is determined on how you react to the situation you find yourself, cast away preconceptions and focus on what is truly important to you.
“you cant make an amazing omelet without breaking a few eggs”
what I mean by that statement you have the raw ingredients you “the egg” without failure or adversity you’ll just be an egg , become an omelet something even better than you was before.